We live in a society where we have to behave, dress and live according to the norms in order to be considered normal and sane by others. When you do something or behave in a way that some people think is not appropriate, they may call you names like stupid, weirdo, foolish etc. Out of fear of being criticised and being labelled with bad labels, some people only behave in way that they think people around them will approve. For example there are people who dress only according to the latest fashion not because they like the cloth but because they want to be perceived as cool and stylish. Actually there is nothing wrong with being stylish of following the last fashion, after all we all want to look good and attractive. The problem is the thinking style associated with that behaviour.
Why You Need To Stop Caring About What Other People Think
Do the Opinions of Others Really Matter? | Teen Ink
For most of us, our level of care is not the problem, it is more our worry and fear that gets in the way. When we become defined by what people think, we lose our willingness to be vulnerable. If we dismiss all the criticism, we lose out on important feedback, but if we subject ourselves to the hatefulness, our spirits gets crushed. So, how can we learn to balance this idea of being open to the opinions of others without letting them define us or separate us from our authentic self? A lack of self-acceptance also means you are more likely to search for acceptance in others, leading you to care far too deeply about what they think about you. When you struggle to make peace with who you are, you also become more susceptible to the opinions of others. The more we seek approval and admiration from others or find ourselves getting overly elated when someone praises us, the more likely we are to find ourselves getting crushed when a negative opinion comes along.
Should You Care What Other People Think About You?
Throughout my whole childhood, the opinion of others was irrelevant to me, even though my parents reminded me very frequently that I should take into account that other people, especially adults, said. I was made to believe that my way of thinking was wrong and unorthodox. Therefore when I first heard in my mids that many respectful, smart and well-known people shared publicly the same views I had, I was quite surprised, even though I strongly believed that I was living my life correctly.
The game is a simple one, and maybe one that some people might find slightly morbid, but it cuts to the heart of the matter. Ninety-nine percent of the time the answer is no. You might be thinking, but it matters to me now, and it does. Worrying is the most impractical way to use your energy. There has never been a time when worrying if so-and-so would like you, give you the job, or want to be your partner in life contributed to you getting what you want.